Musings from a midlife green diva: what I’ve learned in 53 years

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Green Diva Meg as a baby with her mother

Little GD Meg with her mother (GD Lisa in background) circa 1963

This evening marks 53 years since my mother gave a sigh (and a cry) of relief after giving birth to her last baby — surprise! It’s me! She’s been gone for the last 21 of those years and it is still my impulse to call and thank her for not murdering me during the trauma of my teens. 

Standing stark-raving . . . well . . . me . . . in the middle of my midlife, I clutch gratitude that I made amends to my mother before she got sick with cancer, so when it was clear that her time here was going to be severely limited, I happily focused as much time and energy on her as I possibly could with three children, the littlest one of which was 7 days old when her illness took hold.

It was silently understood that I had managed to miss much of what she tried to teach me earlier in my life, so my mother began to download as much as she could to me during those last couple of years. Some of it mundane, like to never let the manicurists cut my cuticles because they would grow back faster and stronger; some of it spanning the vast landscape of mother-daughter love like how she had observed me and my unique talents and how absolutely, positively sure she was that I would be fabulous despite the recent departure of my second husband (who thought it was a grand time to ditch me for the 19-year-old receptionist – cliche much?). 

I have flown like a bat blinded by the light so much of these last 21 years, bumping into circumstances and wondering what she would say, craving her depth and wisdom I so hastily eschewed when I was in the years of extreme youth and ego. Her love was like a subtle radar that guided me through the darkest of times and probably still does. 

Green Diva Meg and her siblings

GD Meg & her siblings, left to right: Lisa McWilliams, Doug McWilliams, GD Meg, Jenny Ellison

I’m fortunate to have older sisters and a brother that have helped me navigate the obstacle course of love, divorce, forgiveness, midlife, health, death, kids, grandkids, menopause (not my brother of course) . . . all of it. I’ve also been wonderfully blessed with amazing women in my life, who have walked, cried, laughed till we peed, and made this trudge upon the happy road of destiny mostly fun. 

Here are 53 things I’ve learned in 53 years

    1. The more I learn, the less I know. 
    2. Dark chocolate is better than milk chocolate.
    3. Grandchildren are definitely my payoff for surviving parenthood.
    4. No matter how old a dude is, he is still primarily thinking about sex.
    5. Grey hair is kinda cool.
    6. Most fear is a pointless waste of energy, unless you run into a bear on the trail.
    7. Climate change is real.
    8. Ticks suck.
    9. Love animals. All of them.
    10. Whatever it is, don’t panic, it’ll all get done eventually.
      Not remembering things can be a blessing sometimes ~ from @greendivameg's #midlifemanifesto… Click To Tweet
    11. Peanut butter pie can sometimes substitute for good sex (sometimes).
    12. Even if you think you suck at art or crafting, create something anyway.
    13. Unless there is blood or fire, it’s probably not as big a crisis as you think.
    14. People rarely intentionally set out to hurt you. 
    15. I’m not the center of the universe. But neither are you. 
    16. Even the crappiest people have a spark of love and light in there somewhere. Really.
    17. Menopause isn’t that bad if you expect periodic nuclear meltdowns. 
    18. Not remembering things can be a blessing sometimes.
    19. My body really is a vehicle for traversing this earthly landscape and if I honor it thus, things are a lot more fun across the board.
    20. Being sober is absolutely the best way to celebrate life.
    21. Best not to surprise a cat with a belly rub while they are sleeping. Ouch.
    22. Cheese is addicting. Is there a 12-step program for cheese yet?
    23. Being healthy makes cellulite, rolls, wrinkles and grey hair beautiful signs of a robust life.Green Diva Meg quote on fear
    24. Keeping your heart open, especially after having it smashed upon the rocks, is better than trying to create armor around it to keep it safe. There is no safety in not loving wholly. 
    25. Always wait 24 hours before sending that text or email if you’re feeling emotionally charged about something. Seriously, this is an important one!
    26. Accessorizing with colorful scarves and wraps can hide a multitude of things.
    27. Meditation is not a luxury, but a necessity if you intend to have any kind of health and peace.
    28. Laughing till you cry and almost wet your pants may be the key to sanity.
    29. Always be willing to admit your own flaws and love yourself anyway. You will be harder on yourself than anyone else could ever be. 
    30. Long walks in nature can heal almost anything.
    31. Allowing yourself to binge-watch netflix for an entire day every once in a while is ok.
    32. Being kind is always the right choice.
    33. Removing as many toxic chemicals in your world as possible is a good idea (skincare, cleaning products, etc.)
    34. Crying is not bad. It’s ok to be sad or to heal or to be moved to tears.
    35. The world will not end if you admit you are wrong. Really. Try it sometime.
    36. Don’t compare yourself to anyone or judge anyone. You really have no idea what it is like to be inside their skin.
    37. Not everyone appreciates your sense of humor.
    38. Enjoy your parents and elders while you have them, because I promise you will miss them, even if you don’t really like them much.
    39. Hold the door for people.

  1. Don’t drive like a jerk. Be patient and remember everyone has somewhere to be.
  2. Listen to music that makes you either dance or sing or cry.
  3. Play with children whenever possible.
  4. If you have pets, remember to give them some love every day.
  5. Say “yes” to new things even if they scare you.
  6. Get houseplants. They will bring some new energy to your home and will help clean the air.
  7. Find a spiritual connection. NOTE: not talking about religion here, but if you have a religious practice that strengthens that spiritual connection, DO IT. But if nature or love or cats are your higher power, just make the connection and surrender every day.
  8. Eat some kind of raw, fresh, organic, seasonal fruits and veggies every day.  
  9. Read books. 
    Sing. even if you can't carry a tune ~ advice from @greendivameg's #midlifemanifesto #midlife… Click To Tweet
  10. Sing even if you can’t carry a tune.
  11. Be the first to forgive in an argument. Life is just too short to be right all the time.
  12. Make a campfire and eat s’mores with kids at least once a year.
  13. Wear comfortable shoes, but have sexy ones too.
  14. Love yourself unabashedly.
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Green Diva Meg
megan@thegreendivas.com'

(aka Megan McWilliams Bouchard) is the founder of The Green Divas and GDGD Radio Network (the first green and healthy living radio network on earth for the earth). She’s the producer and host of the popular Green Divas Radio Show, one of the first radio shows dedicated to sharing low-stress ways to live a deeper shade of green. Green Diva Meg is a well-known green living expert and media personality.

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5 Comments

  1. ronnie@econesting.com'
    Ronnie Citron-Fink February 22, 2016 at 7:56 am -  Reply

    Lovely, Meg. Happy Birthday! xo

  2. megan@thegreendivas.com'
    Green Diva Meg February 22, 2016 at 1:16 pm -  Reply

    Thanks Ronnie! <3

  3. jessica@eatsleepbe.com'
    Jessica February 22, 2016 at 4:25 pm -  Reply

    I absolutely love this list!!

  4. janicegreenfield123@gmail.com'
    Janice Wald March 6, 2016 at 3:59 pm -  Reply

    Hi Meg,
    You have a radio show? How exciting. I agree that laughter is the key to sanity. The scarf tip was funny.
    Thanks again for visiting my blog yesterday.
    Janice

  5. liz@workingdaughter.com'
    Liz February 11, 2017 at 10:51 am -  Reply

    Great list.

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